When a person is angry, there can be many underlying reasons. It could be due to deep-seated insecurities or it could also be due to arrogance. In fact, arrogance can arise from insecurity also. When a person is deeply insecure and consider themselves lowly, they cannot reveal that to the world although sometimes people see flashes of that insecurity. How does that person mask that deep-seated insecurity? By creating an image of superiority. They act as if they are better than everyone else.
We really have to try and curb our anger. Anger clouds our judgement; it blinds us. No one else can solve our anger problems for us. We have to work on ourselves consciously. We need to take time out every day for self-reflection and contemplation. Just as we never forget to eat or drink, self-reflection should be part of our daily routine. Just as we eat and drink every day, we should ponder and reflect on our character every day. We should look at ourselves and ask ‘What is wrong with me? How can I better myself?’
Uncurbed anger will destroy us. Sadly, there are so many marriages that have been destroyed by talaq being uttered in anger and fits of rage.
[This short excerpt is based on a lecture entitled ‘Traits of Hypocrisy Part 5’ delivered by Shaykh Riyadh ul Haq on Friday 17th January 2020].